Why is that we, well most of us, go through Life missing opportunities simply because of the judgement of other people ? Of course we'd like to believe that we don't care what other people think and that their opinions don't matter, but it does...doesn't it ?
I'd like to think we become aware of judgment and insecurities roughly around the age of 13/ 14 years old . High-school years !!
It is here that we are told that we are not as dope as we once believed we were. For me , this was when i was realized people just didn't like me . At first I was confused which lead to anger and then seclusion. I stayed to myself a lot in high-school , which didn't help because somehow i still found myself a victim of the "mean-girl" crew . I'll be the first to say i was relieved when i graduated . i planned to never look back and i did just that.
But what if i or girls like me had someone to tell them that those "mean-girls" saw your magic way before you did??
Even now, at 28 years old , i still find myself being a loner because the term "friend" apparently has several meanings. The difference now is, im ok with being the outcast .
As women , we are associated with being messy, catty or just damn mean , and to be honest we are!! I have no idea why or how we posses so much "shade" ,even towards the people we love dearly. However i do know that once you realize who the fuck YOU ARE , others will too.!
Once you embrace your insecurities, "turning your scars into beauty marks"~ Ciara, Red Table Talk , The negative opinions of others no longer matters or exist in your world. People treat you how you allow them to treat you. It is your job to set the tone on what you will and will not allow.
For anybody who needs to hear this;
Sis, your are the shit! You posses every ounce of power to create the life you desire. You are smart enough to make the necessary decisions that makes your soul sing and your heart smile.
You Are Magic, Own That Shit !